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There was also another model loved by Nigerians which abruptly changed
version and color. The real reason was it had a defective body and Nigeria
was about the only country that would gladly accept without asking
questions. So, it came AND indeed, with an upward adjustment in price.
Generally speaking, any car model that came into our market was actually
ALREADY out of the market elsewhere. Thank God, all of that is gone. Indeed,
there’s hardly any new car out there today that you don’t find in Nigeria
within the first week or two. Times have changed.
TIMES HAVE CHANGED
We woke up one morning and our
otherwise unimaginable huge world thinned out before our own very eyes. Like
a bang, the Internet, in particular, arrived town and for the first time in
our technological life, OVEN FRESH. The only limitations we had then were
self-imposed and as a result of our terrible state of telecommunication
infrastructures. It was so good the Clinton administration had Vice
President Al Gore added to his portfolio the job to see countries of the
world hook onto the Internet and went ahead to offer help. When my interest
group built its first Cyber café in Yaba way back in ’97, adults paid N5000
to register and paid N500 for an hour of usage. Students paid less and you
had to be a member to be allowed in anyway. You completed a form and before
you got our nod, your supplied details had been checked. Today, anyone can
walk in, pay as little as N100 for an hour, N60 for half an hour and N40 for
20 Minutes. Like Bill Gates once said: you ain’t seen nothing yet.
We woke up one morning and our otherwise unimaginable huge world thinned out
before our own very eyes. So, today's world is fast becoming an advanced
technological society. From cellular phones to Palm Pilots, from the
Internet to online education and shopping, today's society has become
engrossed in technology. In fact, this paper, written on a laptop computer
in between other assignments will soon be available on-line for anyone in
the world to view at
www.familiesalive.net. However, the very obvious concern of the
Christian community, especially over the inevitable dangers of the Internet
on our youth remains VALID.
What are the dangers and how do we live with them? Can we live with them?
Furthermore, if there is a need and a way, are there any dangers that should
cause a youth minister to be wary? These are questions this work tries to
answer.
It is assumed that the church must use developing technologies if it wishes
to be able to reach today's technological society. It is further assumed
that the implementation of these technologies is possibly more important in
youth ministry than with any other ministry of the church. This paper also
assumes that most youth ministries are not making use of the newest
technology that is available to them.
In a recent survey, conducted by Group magazine at their annual youth
ministry convention, respondents indicated that the second most important
item in the future of youth ministry would be "technology as a ministry
tool." (The number three response was "Music and multimedia
presentations.") A youth minister needs only look at his own youth group
and see the numerous cell phones, pagers, and e-mail addresses to know that
there is a vital need to incorporate technology into youth ministry. The
reason and the need is obvious. There is ABSOLUTELY nothing wrong with
“this” technology for as long as the content it drives is pure. As a matter
of fact, at Families ALIVE International, the belief is that anyone, or
group, and indeed a Ministry that doesn’t get on the train will soon find
out how cold it is out there.
The Minister involved with Youths would be doing the youth and his Ministry
(actually God) a world of good migrating from "chalk talks" to
Interactive CD-ROM (ICDs).
The possibilities of ICD usage are limitless. For
instance, imagine the Sunday brochure that is handed out to first time
visitors and new members. While some churches and Ministries may have
well designed and good-looking brochures that are aesthetically appealing,
how many of these can actually speak to you? And how many brochures could
have video clips of a Wednesday night praise service or the last Youth
Fellowship? These are some of the advantages of ICD technology. It would
amaze you to know that churches, especially in the West now hand out ICDs to
their visitors and new members. These ICDs help communicate the purposes,
programs, and ministries of the church. This concept can be applied to any
youth ministry.
ICDs allow one to
interact with the message by selecting various parts of it, hyper-linking to
the church’s web site, listening to selections from the youth praise band,
and possibly even previewing the literature that is used for Bible study
classes or small groups.
Youth Ministry Software
The Internet
When anyone mentions
"technology" or "computers" one of the first terms or use that comes to mind
is the Internet, and with today's youth and youth ministry this is no
exception. Since we tow the way of the West, and indeed, with the trend of
things, soon, we are going to be relying primarily or exclusively upon the
Internet for our religious input
We only must ask ourselves what benefits and dangers exist in using the
Internet in our ministry situations and in our families.
The internet is a cultural force that is
changing the way we live and communicate, but many people don't understand
it. The Internet could be a great tool for Christians to use to the glory of
God while at the same time employing discernment to be wise in our use of a
most exciting technology.
The internet also provides almost instantaneous electronic mail, or e-mail,
which allows people to communicate so quickly, easily, and cheaply that
e-mails now outnumber physical mail aptly nicknamed "snail mail." Instead,
those who can type find that it's a lot faster to zip off a letter at a
keyboard, type in an e-mail address, hit the "send" button, and bam! Your
letter is in the other person's mailbox waiting for them to log on and read
it. Delivery is in a matter of seconds, irrespective of geographic location
of the recipient. That’s besides the fact you can send same to multiple
addresses all at one CLICK.
The Internet is one of the most exciting developments that the world has
ever seen. Many Christians are both fearful and ignorant of it, though we
don't have to be. Like any other kind of technology, the Internet is
morally neutral. It's how we use it or abuse it that makes the difference.
For missionaries and mission organizations, the Internet has become a huge
blessing. Radio and satellite links give missionaries in even the most
remote outposts access to instant, inexpensive, reliable communication with
their organizations and families via e-mail. The Internet has shrunk the
world, and missionaries no longer have to feel so isolated.
One missionary in the former Soviet Union once said via e-mail that she was
very grateful for almost instant access to loved ones as well as mature,
wise believers who can encourage and guide her as she deals with the
challenges of missions work. But the best thing, she said, was that she
can ask people to pray specifically and immediately for needs and problems,
and start seeing answers within hours instead of weeks or months. A
missionary battling discouragement, homesickness and weakness, not to
mention the intensity of spiritual warfare, can summon real-time prayer
assistance from the other side of the world and experience very real support
and a sense of being truly connected to the larger Body of Christ.
Whether a parent is saying goodbye to a child headed for school overseas, a
foreign job, Youth Service, or even to college in another part of the
country, the Internet has made it easier to separate knowing they can stay
in close contact with their loved ones, in a world that has grown
considerably smaller as the Internet has grown larger.
Other Great Tools
The Dangers
Drugs on the Internet
After some 30 years of misrule in
Nigeria, common to continental Africa, we saw the neglect of family values,
painfully for mere existence or survival, not necessarily for any level of
luxury. The breakdown of the family and countless other by-products of a
relativistic culture led to
child abuse,
child labour, teen violence, substance abuse, and sexual explosiveness.
At least in Lagos today, there are reports of children on the streets doing
real hard drugs while recently kid-hawkers are said to have picked up the
new habit of glue sniffing and cello tape chewing. These kids come from some
homes and each belongs to a family. They become
Drug-related activity is widespread on the Internet, and even the novice
user has easy access to all the information needed to produce, cultivate,
purchase, sell, or use any illegal drug, even relatively obscure ones.
Many of the users participating in these drug-related activities are
adolescents and young adults.
Use. Information about drug
use is readily available on the Internet. Adolescents and young adults who
are curious about a particular drug may research it on the Internet and
thereby become exposed to thousands of sites that expound upon the positive
effects of the drug and downplay or deny any negative effects. These sites
frequently explain and use drug terminology and slang, thereby further
acclimating visitors to drug culture. Many Internet sites mislead
visitors by explaining how to use drugs, implying that if the drugs are
used properly (by following the instructions provided) they pose no risk to
the user. In addition, there are sites that advise visitors about how to use
readily available products, such as cold medications, in order to obtain
euphoric effects.
According to the International Criminal Police Organization (Interpol),
early in 2000, authorities in Great Britain and Northern Ireland identified
over 1,000 worldwide Internet sites offering to sell illicit drugs, mostly
cannabis, but also cocaine, and heroin. This is in direct violation of
international drug control treaties. The Netherlands and Switzerland have
the highest number of such sites, although individuals in the United States
also sell illicit drugs via the Internet.
Most Common Drug Types
on the Internet
Same goes for Heroin. Most information available on the Internet
about heroin use concerns either snorting or injecting, with injecting being
the method most endorsed.
Heroin, which is dangerously addictive and, in some cases, deadly, is
promoted as a drug used at raves to "come down" from the effects of
some hard drugs and to provide relief from stress and physical pain.
The key to protecting our children from online pornography is the same way
we protect them from printed pornography: parental vigilance. Parents need
to know what their children are doing at the computer, which is why it's
wise to keep the family computer in a public place. And it's also wise to
become computer and internet literate ourselves.
Just having a filtering program isn't enough.
Some programs work so poorly that they're
actually worse than nothing at all because they give a false sense of
security. Not all filtering software is created equal! Nothing will ever
take the place of parental involvement and vigilance, and that will always
need to be our first line of defense.
Parents, Teachers and
Guardians should be aware of the dangers of the internet, while desiring
young people to have access to the incredible resources it offers. It's
essential that parents check on the policies of both their children's
schools and the local Internet Cafes, which often provide unfiltered access
to both adults and children.
DATA
There are 1.3 million porn websites (N2H2, 9/23/03)
The adult-film industry
is bigger than ever, making some 6,000 movies a year and grossing more than
$4 billion - roughly as much as the National Football League (New York Post,
Russell Scott Smith, 9/25/03).
More than 32 million unique individuals visited a porn site in
Sept. of 2003. Nearly 22.8 million of them were male (71 percent), while
9.4 million adult site visitors were female (29 percent) (Nielsen/Net
Ratings, Sept. 2003).
Pornographic web pages now top 260 million and growing at an
unprecedented rate (N2H2, 9/23/03).
N2H2's database contained 14 million identified pages of pornography in
1998, so the growth to 260 million represents an almost 20-fold increase
in just five years (N2H2, 9/23/03).
The total porn industry -
estimates from $4 billion to $10 billion (National Research Council Report,
2002).
Pornographers 'disguise' their sites with
common brand names and misspellings designed to "entrap" people. (Ex: ESPN,
Disney, and White House.) (Source-surveillance study, March 1999.)
Pornography in many forms is invading
people's homes and is available 24 hrs a day. In a short period of time,
the Internet has become the most exploited instrument of perversion known to
man. 51% of Pastors say Internet pornography is a possible
temptation. 37% say it is a current struggle. (Christianity Today,
Leadership survey, Dec 2001.) 4 in 10 pastors have visited a porn
website.
Internet pornography comes from many
nations outside the US, where there are no limitations on obscenity. It's
like pumping raw sewage right into our homes.
The Internet would not be able to sell
this product if the craving and temptation didn't already exist. Protect
yourself, your families, your marriage, and your testimony.
A study by Focus on the Family, shows 1
in 5 adults, 20%, which is nearly 40 million people, have visited a sexually
oriented web site.
Prevention:
Pornography addiction and the destruction
it causes can be prevented by recognizing the dangers, (As stated above) and
taking immediate action. You never know when temptation will strike. Be
accountable in all of your Internet activity. Protect yourself, your
children, your family, and your marriage.
ONLINE DATING The dynamics of computer conversation are vastly different from face-to-face discussion. There is no non-verbal element, which comprises 93% of our communication. When body language and tone of voice are missing, and words are all you have to work with, words become much more important. And words, especially those of a direct and personal nature, are very powerful. But words on a screen are enough to allow friendships to sprout up quickly and mature under the right circumstances. Many people count their online friends, some of whom they've never met, as among their most cherished relationships. And many Christians are grateful for the depth of fellowship with other believers they have found through the computer. However, it's important to understand how online relationships differ from those in the "real world." Because we have very limited information about the people we communicate with, we project our preconceptions and fantasies onto them, quite unconsciously. Women are especially vulnerable in online communication for two reasons: first, because God made them verbal creatures, and they respond deeply to words. And words are everything in cyberspace. Secondly, women are vulnerable because of the pervasive loneliness in our culture. Even those in marriages and families experience unmet needs for attention, warmth, and interaction. Many women are starving for romance, and any attention from a man can feel like the romance they're starving for. When a woman receives focused attention from a man who is listening to her heart as well as her words, it can feel like the romance God designed her to receive, and that's why a frightening number of women become infatuated with men they've never even laid eyes on, although this happens to men as well. The word of God tells us to guard our hearts (Proverbs 4:23), and this is wise advice for all online communications and relationships. Two short online-romance stories: He knew her by her screen name--Mzdkalf. She knew him, by his handle--Chrlskem. They had never seen each other or heard the other. But from their first meeting on the Internet, they knew they were kindred souls. "I could relate to what she was saying about everything," says Charles Kemp, 50, a Mississippi author and retired army veteran who met his match through an on-line ad. "A lot of things she was saying were the same feelings I had. When I talked to her on the Internet that first time, I said, `I ain't letting her get away." Kemp and Alabama telecommunications worker Deborah K. Alford Kemp stayed on-line that night from 8 p.m. until 3 a.m. They disconnected for just a few moments to call each other on the phone. The pair swapped stories until Deborah's son went to school that morning. Two days later, Kemp came to visit. Two weeks later, they wed. 2. "We could not turn each other loose on the phone, on the computer in person," says Deborah, a 39-year-old who works for Bell South. "We began thinking, `How could we stay in each other's lives?' He said, `Do you wanna get married tonight?' I said, `No ... but I'm off Tuesday.' We were married that day in Alabama, just the two of us and the justice of the peace." YOUR MONEY and THE NET Use of the web as a venue for commercial enterprise is growing daily; there are tens-of-thousands of places and ways and things upon which to spend your money. Money, however, always attracts crooks, and the Internet is no exception. Today in Nigeria, there are Credit Cards Marts all over the place for those who are interested in buying goods online without having to worry about exchanging their Naira to the Dollar. The following are precautions for your consideration when using the net to conduct transactions:
Look at the link for any site where you intend to shop; make sure the site you are visiting is the real site of the vendor with which you wish to do business.
Many people who send unsolicited commercial email (UCE) act very apologetic
about taking your time or clogging your in-box. They include specific
instructions on how to
unsubscribe from their list. What you're really doing if you
send an unsubscribe message is notifying them that you exist - and they
will send you more spam...lots more! Don't fall for their ploy and try
to "unsubscribe". Resist the urge. Just delete the email.
WHAT DO WE DO THEN? Before you begin throwing all the church's computers out the window, wait a minute. The computer or the Internet or the World Wide Web is no more evil than the newspaper, the television, movies, books, or magazines. All such tools can be used for good or bad. Technology is indeed a wonderful tool. It is something that makes our lives easier. It is something that provides us with more freedom and privileges. But whenever one encounters freedom and privileges, it must be balanced by responsibility. There is indeed a need and a place for technology in youth ministry and beyond. REPLACEMENTg FACTORCraig Canton, a Minister of Students in Texas, has a unique part of his youth home page called The SIDEroom. (SIDE stands for Student Interactive Discussion Exchange.) The SIDEroom is an interactive bulletin board where students and adult leaders can post prayer requests, questions, announcements, and questionnaires and polls. Canton states: “I originally wanted a chat room for the youth but . . . we opted for the bulletin board." Regarding participation he states that "It often just takes an announcement during one of our meetings ('hey, there's a new thought or announcement in the SIDEroom, go check it out tonight when you get home . . .')." Craig also shares that "It has been a great tool for ministering to those who have Internet access. Sharing announcements, devotional thoughts, and questions, polls, etc. have been a plus." In a way, Mr. Canton achieved more than his original intensions. There is a simple method of getting kids do what we want them do effortlessly which is an aspect of the well known replacement factor. It works so well you’d be surprised. A crawling baby picks up a razor from the floor. Out of impulse, the first thing most Moms would do is find a way of wrestling the razor out of the baby. In the first instance, why does this Mom want her baby drop the razor? Out of love, she doesn’t want her baby hurt. When Mom wrestles the razor out of the baby’s keep, she hasn’t only terrified, but also has HURT the baby, emotionally and perhaps, physically too. How do we eat our cake and have it both at once. That’s to say, how do we keep our baby out of the “danger” of the razor and not hurt her? This can happen by simply placing, say a teddy bear close enough to the baby and before you know it, the baby willingly drops the razor and race to get the teddy bear. That’s replacement factor of sort. This way, Mom is happy, so is her baby. Craig Canton’s SIDEroom example is a positive way of pre-occupying our kids while on the Internet thereby reducing or eliminating the chances they get mischievous. PLUS, they also stay current with the state of the art tech without feeling inadequate amongst their peers.
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